Happy Valentine’s Day – The True Meaning of Love

ALL I REALLY NEED IS LOVE, BUT A LITTLE CHOCOLATE NOW AND THEN DOESN’T HURT ~ Lucy Van Pelt – ‘Peanuts’ That time of year is once again upon us where our women and men are expected to show their love and affection for one another. The burden however is in reality, truly placed on[…]

Fear Based Love

I often hear the term, “”… usually in the context of conversations about “things just didn’t work out”. These “things”, usually attributed to the other person, seemingly have led to the demise of their most recent relationships. Yes, it’s true that many people in relationship are afraid to commit in the beginnings of just getting[…]

Help! I’ve Fallen (IN LOVE) and I Can’t Get Up!

While on a social networking site that I also post articles on, I came across another member’s recent post describing her overwhelming feelings of pain and angst over a lost love. Her powerful writings described feelings of falling hard, unrequited love, yearnings for comfort, tossing blindly and her willingness to walk into the fire to[…]

Getting the Relationship You Want!

Everyone’s talking about this “relationship stuff” in Starbucks, on the subway, at the local restaurants and bars on Friday nights. Does anyone have a good relationship, or for that matter… a Great Sex Life? As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Sexologist, of course I have an opinion! Although many couples present in therapy[…]

Rules of Engagement

The old adage of something or another being one’s “Bread and Butter” has been around for a long time. Perhaps this is simply another soon to become ancient jewel, its prolific meaning to be covered in cobwebs, lost to the English language forever. However, in relationship therapy, the mainstay of dynamics of relationship, sex, intimacy[…]

What Is Normal Sexuality in Marriage?

Everyone wonders about this. Are our friends having more sex than we do? Do any other couples have this problem where one partner has high desire, and the other one has little to none? There must be something really wrong with us! Everyone wants sex 24/7 don’t they? The answer to these most commonly asked[…]

How to Survive Falling Out Of Love

It was everything you ever thought you needed, your best friend and confidant, romantic and lovely, he/she was your everything all wrapped into one PERFECT package. When you kissed the world seemed to stop and you’d swear that you were the only two people in existence that had ever felt this sweet ecstasy. By now[…]

Being Able to Love With Abandon

In a random moment the other day, without any particular agenda or pre-determined intent, I asked a friend what he thought of ‘Love’. Naturally, there was the ever so slight guffaw and chuckle, before his response of, “oh boy.” Those two little words rolled off his tongue with the same effect as my auto mechanic[…]